I AM THAT GIRL the book

I AM THAT GIRL the book

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I recently read a book that truly encouraged me to grow, be confident and take pride in myself. It isn’t a self help book, and it isn’t a self control philosophy; it’s a manifesto. It’s a way of living. It’s a revolution of a new generation of the girls we ought to be. It’s a book that every female needs to read, ages 9 to 90. We never stop growing, and it’s time us girls back each other up instead of cutting each other down. I want to be THAT GIRL. And I’m on my way.

If you are a woman and reading this blog, I strongly recommend you go pick up I AM THAT GIRL by Alexis Jones. Jones is a new author but isn’t new to her own philosophy; in fact she started a non profit organization called I Am That Girl to start a revolution. As per iamthatgirl.com, the organization focuses on a global movement inspiring girls to BE, LOVE, and EXPRESS who they are through education, content, and community. Jones expanded on this movement by writing a book that is taking the younger generations by storm. I am including the That Girl Manifesto below, an excerpt from the book that encompasses every issue Jones discusses in the book. In the 282 pages, Jones is joined by several inspiring woman who encourage readers with tales of success, overcoming adversity, and growth- both personally and professionally. This book will bring women together, strangers and friends alike.

After all: It’s the 21st century and it’s time for us to support one another, once and for all.

Read on to get a sense of the new revolution that needs to sweep the nation.


That Girl Manifesto

I am Enough. I have enough. I do enough.

I am me. Every day.

Not who I think others expect me to be,

But the real, unedited, beauty-full, perfectly flawed version.

I choose to think for myself.

I speak my truth

And wrestle with life’s tough questions over and over again.

I daydream about a better world and strive to make it my reality.


My purpose drives me

And I give it the freedom to change and evolve.

I breathe life into my dreams and to the dreams of others.

I believe in magic. I look for it everywhere.

I make an adventure of ordinary things.

Create, imagine, reinvent, and get lost.


I do things that inspire me.

I defy the odds, raise my hand, sit at the table and lean in.

I refuse to give up.

I pursue my passion at all costs. I do things that terrify me.

My head dances among the stars, and my feet remain on mother earth.

I’m willing to ask the hard questions, to take chances, to love with my whole heart.

My mistakes and failures make me stronger.

I do not ascribe my worth to external validation, but my character.


I surround myself with phenomenal people,

Especially ones who don’t always agree with me.

I choose authenticity over perfection.

I appreciate the small details that tend to go unnoticed by others.

My worth is innate and immeasurable. I try to remind myself of that, daily.


I exercise patience as often as possible,

Stay vulnerable even when I want to close my heart

And practice coexisting with things that make me uncomfortable.

I set boundaries, work to honour them,

And am willing to edit people out of my life who don’t.


I walk more than a mile in other people’s shoes,

And suspend judgement as long as humanly possible.

I remember to laugh more, stress less, forgive often, and inject love everywhere I can.


I do my best to relinquish every ounce of control because it’s futile.

I throw my hands up, close my eyes, and

Revel in life’s awesome and mysterious ride.

My emotions are fleeting, they do not define me.

My choices do, and I do my best to make good ones.


I feed my body good, whole foods,

But I don’t punish myself for the occasional indulgence.

I move my body every day. I stretch, challenge, and honour her.

I rest when I need to.


I don’t accept every invitation that comes my way.

I practice saying “no.”

Show myself kindness, compassion, and unconditional love.

I am my best friend, I’m proud of me.


I share my life’s lessons with others, even the not so shiny ones.

I hold nothing back. Cry when I need to,

But also recognize when I need to buck up.

I remember to breathe and in that space, I find my clam among the chaos.

I owe it to myself to be remarkable, so I am.


If that doesn’t want to make you give a fist pump and yell ‘Hell yeah!’ I don’t know what will. We are strong, we are awesome. And we need to be confident. (Which is super hard for me sometimes! Insecurities, blah!)

And while I love the manifesto, and while I want (and am trying) to incorporate it into my daily life, I also wrote some major thoughts down as I read the book myself. These key points are ones that really stuck out to me; some things I do well, some things I really need to work on. Regardless, they are all important. I figure if I don’t invest in myself, and don’t try to be confident, how will I ever truly get behind me?

So I made a little manifesto for myself (and no, it’s not the Sunscreen song). Here goes (I almost wrote ‘don’t laugh,’ but then again, that wouldn’t be very confident now, would it?):

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I am that girl

Never stop: Dancing. Dreaming. Loving. Growing. Learning. Being.

Love. Love. Love.

Women need to build each other up, not cut each other down.


Let’s learn from one another,

And never stop.
Love one another for our differences; what makes us unique.

I’m weird. Quirky.

I always used to try and fit in. It didn’t always work out.

I have to embrace my weirdness

And be proud of who I am.
Dream big. Always.
Encourage and support other’s dreams. But beyond dreaming I need to STRIVE and take action.

ACT on dreams!

Follow your passion.

Let little things inspire me. Take note of these little things.

Speak up.

I need to keep learning to gain the confidence to stand behind my words,

Otherwise they are just words.

Step outside the safety net.

I’ll hate it. It’s never fun.

But taking risks and stepping outside my comfort zone will only make me better.
Be proud of my accomplishments,

No matter the size.

I’ve worked hard.

Be proud of other’s accomplishments.

They’ve worked hard.
I will focus on health in hopes of a long life,

Not pure vanity.

I only have one body; let’s treat her right.
I am so blessed every day.

No matter what, I need to pray and remember what I am thankful for.

I have a support team.

My love.

My family.

My friends.

We always need to be honest with one another,

And we all need to look out for one another.

We need to support one another,

And be thankful to have each other.

How do I want to be remembered?

I need to constantly strive to become a better person,

Every day. 

I can’t be worried all the time about what curve balls life will throw at me.

It’s all about the journey

And how we grow through it.

That’s how we define ourselves.

It’s how I will continue to define myself.
Life is an adventure…

It’s made up of magical experiences,

Little and big, and lots of love.

Give bundles of love as often as I can.

Continue hugging as much as I can.

It’s been said that character is not judged on how you reach success,

But how you handle failure.

Perseverance and resilience triumphs all.
What’s perfect?

Not being perfect.

I’m okay with being a work in progress, as long as I keep growing.

I’m perfectly flawed.



Kelly Furgal Toye

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