Book 16 of 2017
This past June, I read a book that empowered me and offered me the encouragement I sought. This book was called: You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living An Awesome Life, by Jen Sincero. Every once in a while, I love picking up a motivational book. A lot of the time these types of books have the same underlying themes and ideas of how to achieve your goals; each author simply tweaks how to actually get there. You Are a Badass was not necessarily different in that respect, however I found Sincero’s take on self-improvement refreshing and powerful. Sincero is candid and sarcastic; her writing felt real, which was probably one of her biggest goals with this book. I felt that You Are a Badass must feel relevant to more people than a lot of self-improvement books do, and I used my own feelings of motivation from reading it to fuel my own presentation/pitch to Grey Goose when I won the competition in June. (Whitney and I even called the book out during our presentation). As I always do with nonfiction books, I took notes and wrote down my favorite quotes and tips and compiled them for book-reviewing purposes. Read below for the points Sincero made that really stuck with me, some paraphrased, some direct quotes, as well as some notes from my perspective… and who knows? Maybe you’ll want to read You Are A Badass too!
You Are a Badass:
– “You don’t have to wait to hit rock bottom before climbing out of your hole.”
– “If you want to live a life you’ve never lived, you have to do things you have never done.”
– Pinpoint the things that are holding you back in your subconscious: “I need to do things I hate in order to make money.”
– Operate at a ‘high frequency’.
– “Be clear on what you want rather than what you should want.”
– Energy and effort have to work together.
– Gratitude is a state of being. Feel genuinely grateful for all the miracles in your life.
– Your faith must be greater than your fear.
– Self love is the almighty power of gratitude.
- Believe in and have gratitude for you imaginary friends and your imaginary life (Haha!).
- “Show an unwavering faith and gratitude towards what you desire.”
- Being ‘in gratitude’ for the not yet manifested desire puts you at the right ‘frequency’ to receive it.
- Be grateful for all the good that’s hurtling towards you.
- When something annoying or bad happens to you. Say “this is good because ______”.
- When your go to bed every night, write down ten things you are thankful for and make it part of your evening routine.
Fear and Growth:
– Flip your fear around and make it work for you, not against you. Change your perspective and let your fears fuel your quest for greatness.
– If you want to help the world and yourself, keep your ‘frequency’ high.
– When someone does something phenomenal you celebrate it, but you don’t find it surprising because they are a phenomenal person. But recognizing it in ourselves? Much different and we often shy away from celebrating ourselves and our accomplishments. (I found such truth in this. I even struggle when someone gives me a compliment and often look for a way to put what I think is a humble spin on it, but I think it can often end up just sounding negative!)
– The universe wants you to be happy. It wants you to see how awesome you are.
– Your job is to be as YOU as you can be.
- You are the only YOU there is, and you are the only YOU that ever will be.
– Love ourselves. Let go of fear and guilt. If we are certain of our own love ability so much of the hate in the world wouldn’t exist.
– Affirmations work. Repeat them to yourselves all day (relating to self-love).
– “Don’t spend your life clinging to the insulting decisions you have made about yourself.”
– You are responsible for what you say and do. You are not responsible for others freaking out about it.
– If you base your self-worth on what other people think of you, you’re in trouble; you give them all the power. You become dependent on a source outside yourself for validation. This can result in an identity crisis.
– Pay attention to your intentions.
– Practice basic meditation.
– You have to change you feelings first before you’ll see the evidence. Shift your perception.
– Surround yourself with people you want to think like: people who see limitless possibilities their reality. (I know I have talked about this before, and this is something I think I have been subconsciously doing for years. I am lucky enough to have friends with a range of interests; friends who are confident and go for their dreams. They inspire me to reach for the stars too).
– “When we say we are unqualified for something, it’s really fear shining through. We spend so much energy thinking about reasons we can’t do something, or that we aren’t good enough to do it.” (This applies to so many situations, but my immediate thought is this fear happens when we want to try a new sport or activity, or want to apply for a new job that potentially looks like it could be “too scary” for us to take on. Of course it is easier to think ‘I’m not good enough to try.’ But what is the worst that can happen? We aren’t good at that activity? We don’t get the job? Big deal. It’s always worth the risk in the end, and we never know where connections we make and things we try can lead us in the future. We are constantly evolving).
– Passion trumps fear.
– Not having time is an illusion.
- When we are forced to do something, suddenly the time is there. Time is in our mind and we can make it work FOR us.
– The book on wealth Sincero recommends is: The Science of Getting Rich.
– Hang out with people who are kicking ass, that will make you feel bad if you are kicking ass too.
– Set honest goals for yourself.
This book encouraged me to go for an opportunity that seemed scary and impossible. When I presented to Grey Goose and Soho House, Sincero’s words of wisdom were fresh in my mind. A lot of what she writes are points I already knew, but I think it is important to use her words as a reminder that we are strong, passionate, and in control of so much of what life offers. We can’t control situations that happen to us a lot of the time, but we can control what we make of those situations, work within our circumstances, and if we choose to seize an opportunity.
We choose who we hang around with, who we see as a mentor, and who we choose to inspire us. More importantly, we have to inspire ourselves, and believe that we can achieve our goals. We have to take risks, regardless of our fear of failure, because that is how we grow into the person we want to be in this short life. There will always be an excuse not to do something, but Sincero helps remind us of why we need to push past those scary thoughts, be thankful for opportunities we have not yet received, and go for it.
You are a badass, I am a badass, we are all badasses.
We just have to tell ourselves that more often.